WAHMs: Pop Quiz Hotshot, What do You Do?
Oh holy smokes! Your business has started, it’s going rather well. Going SO WELL in fact, that you need to dedicate more time to it.
What if that little bit of extra, uninterrupted time, could mean a BIG difference to your income? (I can hear WAHMs around the world laughing at my use of the word uninterrupted)
What if just having a few extra hours a week of uninterrupted time was all you needed to really break into the next gear, finish that awesome well paying project?
The fact is, that at some point you may need to consider a hiring someone for a few hours of help so that you can complete your major project or assignment.
Some of us are blessed with extended families that are only to happy to take the children for a morning a week, or an afternoon here or there, but there will be that one situation where you absolutely HAVE to get things done, and murphy’s law, that will be the one day, that all your family are busy, or out of town, or ill.
It *will* happen.
So what do you do?
What about those of you who don’t have extended family nearby, or even in the same country?
What do *you* do?
Sooner or later you may need the help of a friendly nanny, baby-sitter, or if you’re really lucky an au-pair.
Moms are notorious stalwarts, and many are taken aback, or even offended at the idea of having to hire someone.
Hello? We are all HUMAN. (Ok, as women we know we’re really super human, but still, we’re not perfect). Why not hire someone, who’s job it is to care for and entertain your kids for a few hours?
I learned a valuable lesson from my youngest son, when I made the difficult, heart wrenching decision to let him go to a playgroup for a few hours for the first time.
I was torn apart.
Completely, feeling like I was a failure simply because I could not do it all, all the time, twenty-four hours a day. Until I realized just how ridiculous that sounded.
At what point did I feel like I HAD to be this perfect person, who did everything?
It really dawned on me how silly it was, when I was packing his little back-pack to go to the playgroup again and he saw what I was doing, and he started clapping his little hands together and shouting, “Yay, Yay, Yay!!” I realised that the person who ran the playgroup, chose this as a career.
She chose it because she loves children.
She chooses to spend her time with 5 little youngsters and making their day as fun, as entertaining, as educational, and as routine as possible. Her absolute mission was to make sure that the kids were looked after as well as if she were their real mother, ha ha, their well rested, imaginative, that never-runs-out-of-patience mother.
Being a mother is something I chose, but reality insists that I also earn an income. My chosen form of income bringing activity is graphic design and photography. It is not child care. Though some aspects of childcare come naturally to mothers, I must admit, that I am absolutely terrible at thinking up fun and games all the time, and certainly not when I’m trying to finish that huge project that demands so much of my attention.
So in the same way that I take my child to the doctor when they are sick, I also choose to take them to a childcare expert when I need time to do what I am good at, and that which allows my children the lifestyle that they enjoy.
So if you find yourself in the position where you are needing childcare, I implore you, do not feel like a failure, think of your strengths and the many advantages that YOU and your strengths bring your family, then make your decision.
If you choose as I did, then this resource below may be of use to you.
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Love, Love, Love this post. So true. I chose to be a mother, but there are SO many things about caring for kids that other mothers (and childcare providers) do much, much better than I do. Thank you for doing your part to help us all pitch the mommy guilt.
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There’s just no need for guilt when we’re all working our butts off for our families. The illogicality of it all astounds me. I too have fallen prey to the guilt so many times, but if you break it down to the bear essential components, then what we are doing is right. It takes a village to raise a child. There is no escaping that fact. Particularly if you are one of the moms assigned to berry picking and hunting, rather than the nursery. In the wild old days each mother was tasked with producing new people for the tribe/village but not everyone was tasked with raising them all the time. I enjoyed the very early days with my kids, even through all the tiredness, and I adore spending as much time with them as possible. Back then some mothers would be out berry picking, and some would even choose to become warriors. I wonder if the mommy guilt back then was as intense as it is now?